Open letter to TYT (The Young Turks)

I had often wondered why TYT has barely touched on any of the issues around the trans activist movement that’s suddenly come to the fore over the last 5-8 years.  No discussion around why huge Pharmaceutical industries are funding Stonewall UK, Mermaids, the non-FDA regulated push of puberty blockers (Lupron) used to sterilize men in prisons now used on children younger than 16? The State push to remove the parental right to decide that their children should not transition? The number of young people in their 20’s pushed into transition as children (as young as 4-5 years old), and now finding themselves sterile in their twenties? Transwomen raping women in prison, rape clinics closed down if they didn’t include males – and so much more. 

It beggars belief TYT, that you don’t think this IS a serious topic.

No civil rights movement should be dependent on the elimination of womens rightsSo I said to myself ‘finally’ when I saw that the Damage Report* was covering the JK Rowling’s article in response to her tweet addressing the trend to replace the word ‘women’ from our common language to instead say ‘people who menstruate’. Which touches on the ‘gender-inclusive’ trend across all forms of media that is only applied to women, not men. The word ‘men’ isn’t replaced by the words ‘ejaculators’ or ‘inseminators’ whereas ‘women’ is replaced with terms like ‘menstruators’, ‘uterus havers’, ‘cis-women’ etc. I was disappointed. Instead of a discourse grounded in journalistic discussion, it was a laughingly ageist, misogynist mock fest of JK Rowling by two young white blokes and a woman arguing that‘ JK Rowling ‘attacked’ trans people (John’s circular reasoning that “they’re attacks because they’re attacks” was nonsensical at best) The two short videos on JK Rowling dismissed Rowling’s 3 years of research on the impact of removing the legal rights of women as the rants of a ‘triggered’ ‘boomer’.

I replied to  TYT’s request for responses and the following comments were immediately deleted x3. Which shocked me; TYT touts itself as being a liberal, progressive, incorruptible news source. But you remove polite feedback you disagree with? Tell me please TYT, what was so objectionable about the following post that it doesn’t fall under the umbrella of free speech?

Females are born into genital mutilation; femicide; date rape, marital rape, corrective rape; decreased access to education; reduced political power, and lower social status. These things are imposed on baby girls from the moment of birth because they were BORN female and biological women do not experience this oppression because of choice or self-identification. Accordingly, females need protection from this oppression precisely because they are biological females, and this means we need sex-based safeguards for biological women (as opposed to sex-based safeguards for “Anyone who identifies as a woman”).

Removing the definition of ‘woman’ across all social mediums along with the legal and common definition effectively makes a world of men as the norm and everyone else in the category of ‘other people’. We have effectively destroyed the class of women benefiting for what is in effect bares all resemblance to a men’s rights movement.

Women have a right to keep the LEGAL class of ‘women’ and that to be recognized, otherwise we face the elimination of ALL women’s rights. Thus far here are some of the rights in our different western countries that have been removed…

  • Removal of the right of journalists to report the sex, and history, of subjects
  • Elimination of sex-based crime statistics
  • Eliminating athletic programs and sports competition for women and girls
  • Removing the legal right of women to create reproductive clinics, rape crisis services, support groups, or any organizations for females
  • Removing the legal right of women to free speech related to sex-roles and gender
  • Elimination of the human right of female prisoners under state confinement to be housed separately from male prisoners
  • Elimination of the right of dependent females to prefer female providers for their intimate personal care requirements
  • Elimination of the patient right of dependent females to hospital/facility bed assignments separate from males
  • Removing the legal right of women to organize politically against sex-based oppression by males
  • Removing the legal right of women to assemble outside the presence of men
  • Removing the legal right of women to educational programs created for women outside the presence of men
  • Eliminating data collection of sex-based inequalities in areas where females are underrepresented
  • Removing the legal right of women to be free from the presence of men in areas of public accommodation where nudity occurs
  • Elimination of grants, scholarships, board and trustee designations, representative positions, and affirmative programs for women
  • Eliminating media and all public discourse specific to females
  • Eliminating the legal right of lesbians to congregate publicly
  • Elimination of lesbian-specific organizations and advocacy groups
  • Eliminating media and all public discourse specific to females
  • Removal of the right of journalists to report the sex, and history, of subjects
  • Eliminating the legal right of lesbians, to congregate publicly
  • Elimination of the legal right of women to protection from state-enforced sex-roles (appearance/behavior/thought)

(List compiled by Gallus Mag)

And if you question whether the trans activist movement is at its core is a men’s rights movement then consider the demands that are made of women. (See link) Understanding that trans genders have already all the legal rights of both homosexual and heterosexual people.

It does not matter that you disagree with JK Rowling, it does matter that your organization is displaying no professional integrity as journalists to do your homework; to research, to explore if there is corruption, to intelligently discuss issues that are negatively impacting 50% of the population (women), not to mention gay men and women and the lives of children who are targeted by big pharmaceuticals (a 40-200K a person revenue stream over their lifetime in drugs and surgical procedures.)

Be journalists, please! Set your misogynistic biases aside. Interview the other side, talk to the medical staff that left in droves from Tavistock Medical, the Academic professionals removed from their jobs who have highlighted these issues, those who spoke out against the 17 Autistic girls from one school who were transitioned under 16, the newly formed LGB Alliance that is fighting for Lesbians and Gay rights, teachers and others who work with children. (I have suggested a *list of people you can interview below.)

Thus far on this issue, you’re shown yourselves to be part of a propaganda machine serving at its core big pharma interests and a men rights movement, rather than the professionals with journalistic curiosity and integrity that you’ve appeared to be when covering other issues.


**List of people to talk to:
Ani O’Brien @aniobrien
Kathleen Stock @Docstockk
Jennifer Bilek 

(to be continued)


Scary new challenges = Skill + Empathy

I study learning how to learn and set myself challenges to learn things that people have said to me are out of my reach.  Either due to my age, sex, race or lack of talent or brains that is inherent in some but said to be lacking in me or most people. For example, to the left is my first oil painting, I learnt to paint at 40 years old. These challenges are critical for the work I do, train and help marginlised young people to break through limitations they have about themselves or the limitations others have of them, that they’ve internalised.  So, I’ve learnt singing, speed reading, memory techniques, building houses, coding, various technology and most recently I wanted to write my own songs and sing them in public.

I’ve started pretty late in life on the singing and songwriting and have written two songs so far.  I fret a bit watching my performance I can see lots of flaws and things I need to improve on. And that’s a good thing, I, therefore, empathise more with the youth’s feelings when they present their work for the first time. Sometimes you can’t fix someone’s issues, but knowing what they’re going through, helps them through. Learning something new, or breaking a limitation you’re never perfect, but it’s a milestone met.

So, this is my second song. It gave me an outlet for my grief after losing a close friend, I wrote it for her husband to help him articulate his feelings: “Grief is the price of love”

Grief is the price you pay for love, you pay it every day
One moment you were here, a moment you’re gone away
Leaving but a gaping hole, that no one can replace,
It’s not just the past we grieve, but each new day we face

Oh they say, time will heal all wounds,
Move along, chin up and you’ll push through
Oh they say, they’re in a better place,
They did on earth, what they were meant to do

Maybe t ‘was, time for you to go,
Somewhere you’ll be pain-free
But where does it leave, Our friends, our dog and me?
Your voice greetings still on the phone, we listen from time to time
But if I start to cry, Our dog begins to whine.

You used to annoy when you slammed the doors when you came on thru,
but now I bang them once or twice, to remind me of you
The silly, stupid, dumb, funny, sunny stuff of our every day,
the gaping hole where you are gone has pulled that sun away

Oh they say, time will heal all wounds,
Move along, Chin up, and you’ll push through
Oh they say, you’re in a better place,
You did on earth, what you were meant to do
Says who? Grief is the price you pay for love


Tiny Houses | Women Refuge Retreat

First Tiny House from Sydney's first Tiny House Building Course
First Tiny House from Sydney’s first Tiny House Building Course
I find myself the owner of a sunny little Tiny House, which I’ve called the Rad Pad. It came about because earlier this year late March, I organised Sydney’s first Tiny House Building Course. – I’m proud to say.

There was such a diverse mix of people attending; young couples, middle aged professionals, students and married couples. People came from all around Sydney, Canberra, Melbourne and one brave Kiwi flew in from Singapore. I can’t speak for everyone, but it’s true we have a few things in common; we value having more life, than we do using a lot of that life to get stuff. We pretty much knew nothing about using a hammer or a saw, let alone able to build a house from scratch. Lastly, we pretty much had a blast, it was exhilarating to know we can in fact build our own homes.

Part of our course was filmed by the TV station SBS Living Tiny check it out, unlike a lot of media commentary of late, they did a fair job of tapping into what’s happening here in OZ with the Tiny House Movement.

It would not of been as successful as it was, if I hadn’t brought over the talented, creative and well known Tiny House Builders ‘Deek’ Diedricksen and his brother Dustin (of all the way from Massachusetts, USA to lead the course. Here is little tutorial he recorded from our course . Do subscribe to his channel – it’s the bomb. I also got the invaluable assistance from Rob Scott a Melbourne House Truck builder and Trainer and a local community college (TAFE) building instructor Anthony kept everything to Aussie standards.

The whole project for me was a real challenge and to be honest; stressful to get everything and everyone organised, particularly as I had no knowledge at all of how to put a building course together. There were a few times, my ignorance could of landed us in serious trouble with the Sydney Council and the training centre. But hey, the Universe is kind to fools, (seriously there were a couple of lucky coincidences and meeting extraordinary helpful people that meant we came through unscarred). Thank you Universe.

The journey is not over though. I want to make some kind of dent in the housing situation for women refuges, kids at risk and the homeless. I’m travelling to Canada and USA this year to look at Tiny House Communities on the other side of the planet. I also donated the Rad Pad to a lovely lady called Fatima as the first of five Tiny Homes we are going to build providing temporary accommodation for women refuges when they come to her beautiful grassy property in Goulburn. Moving forward, we’ll continue to run the training courses, because we one provide training to people wanting to build their own homes, two cover the cost of a new Tiny House’s materials and three in effect have ‘free’ labour building a new Tiny for the Refuge Retreat. Therefore far less money is required to pay for additional expenses; off grid solar power, electrician etc.

If any have done this sort of thing before, I would certainly like to get in touch, network with you for support and ideas. My email is As per usual, I am working all this out as I go along. Wish me luck.

Dear Felicia Day…

“Inevitably when I get the ugliest comments I click the profile and look…oh this guy doesn’t make anything, so like the dude doesn’t make anything so he doesn’t know what it’s like to be vulnerable and create. Because, but at the end of the day if you don’t create and you’re not vulnerable then you’re just a drone, in a sense ’cause you’re not really sharing what is special about yourself…”( See whole talk here) Felicia Day

Dear Felicia Day,

You inspire me. Strangely, you also comfort me. Your insecurities do. You’re the only person I’ve come across that seems to have had a similiar experiences to myself. I wasn’t home-schooled like you. But I went through numerous homes as a kid before 14, so I was responsible really for my own education in everything.

My social skills I learnt from TV; “Get Smart”, “The Brady Bunch”, popular shows like that back then, Sunday afternoon black & white movies and early morning childrens stories on the radio. And of course books. One of the homes I lived in from the age Seven onwards, the old lady I lived with used to buy me a book each week when she went to town, she ended up by getting me all the classics; Little Women, Black Beauty, Oliver etc.  I also got the Encyclopedia volume ‘C’, everything to do with C; clowns, cats, clouds, Canada, you name it, all things starting with C. She couldn’t afford the whole alphabet, so she got me C, as my name started with C; Catherine. If there was ever a quiz show that tested you on C, I would kill it.

For example, I learnt how to punish myself from watching the Brady Bunch. One time, when I didn’t like something I did, I decided to ‘ground’ myself. We didn’t really have that as a punishment in New Zealand in those times. Basically if you did something wrong, you got a hiding. Which is getting hit with a strap around your legs. I could never manage it myself, as I didn’t own a belt.  But the idea of limiting yourself to a place, seemed novel. So I sent myself to my room. Useless punishment though, as I would then read or draw  and quietly end up having a good time. I pinpoint that as the time, that I stopped having absolute faith that tv had all the answers to life.

So as you can imagine, I wasn’t particularly socially skilled, there was too much moving around; 30 plus homes. But I think like you I got to take charge of my own education and didn’t feel limited in what I was supposed to learn. Or how I was supposed to learn it.

But, since I was on my own most of the times, there are a lot of social skills that I never really got good at. People in the business world, would find that surprising. I can sell and that takes people & communication skills. If I’m working full time, I complete 3-4 jobs a month that gets me $15-22 thousand on average per job. That I think is good, but that type of work actually has a game mechanic to it. It’s a numbers game, it’s a recognition of certain scenarios, responding accordingly, funnily enough it hasn’t got much to do with people. It’s very much a bunch of game mechanics, I play a personna and knowing all the scenarios so well, run on an auto-tactics mode to complete a job. And the ‘mechanic’ aspects of all that really doesn’t have a lot to do with me, that’s operating under the persona. Or maybe thats just me because my Aunt said, Doctors said; I was a little bit autistic as a kid. I operate in the world like it’s a game to figure out, discover the rules, rewards and then work out the talents, skills, abilities and tactics I need to play to win.

But getting back to you, what makes me hope, or encourages me in my new endeavors, is that you don’t seem certain about everything, you stress about stuff, but I see you (as much as a stranger can see you) get stronger, more assertive and sure of yourself as time goes on. It’s the continuing on under uncertainty that I find inspiring because I think what that is all about; continuing. I greatly admire you because I’m sure it’s not an act that you have been at times – truly open and vulnerable. I love you for that.

Of late, I’m doing a lot of stuff that I don’t know how to do. I was supposed to die a few years back. Not surprisingly as these things go, it was something that made me decide to just give in and die if my life had to stay the same. Or live a life doing things that gave me a reason to want to be here. Things I have a passion for. One of those things is having kids learn in real world settings – rather than book ‘learning’, rote ‘learning’, template ‘learning’. All those things I don’t think have much to do with learning at all.

So one of the projects I’m involved in right now is going into that unknown – to make that happen. Although I am bringing to the role a lot of my skills, I’m very good at. I’m on a different terrain to what I’m familar with and I care intensely about the outcomes, I have goals that I think are quite epic but I haven’t figured out the rules of this new game. I don’t really have a persona to rely on. It’s  scary, sometimes as I have no other option other than to show up as me, not someone I know or like a lot really. Therefore success or failure isn’t distant from me anymore.  Sometimes if I think about it, I feel really vulnerable and wonder who I’m kidding. I can feel lonely, but reading, watching experiences that you and other women I have as heroes share (Janet Tamaro, Jane Espenson, Sylvia Ashton-Warner) I recognise patterns and I intuitively know things will be okay.

You’re a complete stranger, I don’t know you. But, it doesn’t matter. Being you is encouraging me to be me (sort of). Hopefully that works out, or I figure out a new persona, either way – I’m cautiously confident that everything will work out okay.

(There was an hour twitter challenge given by Jane Espenson to write something in one hour, above is what I wrote, If btw, you don’t know who Felicia Day is do yourself a favour and go here: )

It’s about seeing…

When I was 17, I was looking at some preschool children’s pictures.  I noticed something. These preschool children didn’t make their drawings fit inside the four sides of the paper. It was like the world they were seeing was bigger than the paper (which it is) so that’s how they painted it. When kids hit school, even though it’s not surprising that the pictures they draw would change as they increase in age. Typically it seems if they draw a house, they draw it as a square with a triangle on top for a roof. Two squares representing windows are put inside that square. If they add a sun it’s a circle with radiating lines, trees are brown with a cloud shaped green top, sun; yellow, etc. And everything fitting inside the paper.  I actually remember being taught how to draw like this and wondering as a 5 year old, “Why was the Sun yellow when during the day it mostly looked white?”   I wonder if teaching us as children how to draw this way, has it taught us to not see what’s actually in front of us?

Much older and not so long ago I decided I wanted to learn how to paint.  Little shy about it. I wasn’t sure if I would be able to, because I remember being told artistic talent is something you have or haven’t got. But, I heard of a good teacher, Stephen Wilson and I went to him. He told me anyone can paint. Painting he said is about seeing. When you can see then you can paint. His first lessons included teaching you how to see. Which I think was kind of like seeing things as you saw them preschool.

I remember having an epiphany (which is going to sound far-fetched) – but walking out of the studio and looking at a tree – and suddenly actually seeing it, like it was the very first time I’d seen a tree. The dapple of the grey to black shadows hitting the bark, the crevice shadows outlining the peeling bark. The graduation of off-whites, off-yellows, off-greens, browns, greys lightening as they circled up the height of the trunk. The deeper harder more dense shades of colour around the base.. and more. I drove home, looked around and suddenly the whole world felt like it verged on being magical – and realer than it had been before. And I felt a palpable sense of awe.

Here’s the first painting I made.