Scary new challenges = Skill + Empathy

I study learning how to learn and set myself challenges to learn things that people have said to me are out of my reach.  Either due to my age, sex, race or lack of talent or brains that is inherent in some but said to be lacking in me or most people. For example, to the left is my first oil painting, I learnt to paint at 40 years old. These challenges are critical for the work I do, train and help marginlised young people to break through limitations they have about themselves or the limitations others have of them, that they’ve internalised.  So, I’ve learnt singing, speed reading, memory techniques, building houses, coding, various technology and most recently I wanted to write my own songs and sing them in public.

I’ve started pretty late in life on the singing and songwriting and have written two songs so far.  I fret a bit watching my performance I can see lots of flaws and things I need to improve on. And that’s a good thing, I, therefore, empathise more with the youth’s feelings when they present their work for the first time. Sometimes you can’t fix someone’s issues, but knowing what they’re going through, helps them through. Learning something new, or breaking a limitation you’re never perfect, but it’s a milestone met.

So, this is my second song. It gave me an outlet for my grief after losing a close friend, I wrote it for her husband to help him articulate his feelings: “Grief is the price of love”

Grief is the price you pay for love, you pay it every day
One moment you were here, a moment you’re gone away
Leaving but a gaping hole, that no one can replace,
It’s not just the past we grieve, but each new day we face

CHORUS
Oh they say, time will heal all wounds,
Move along, chin up and you’ll push through
Oh they say, they’re in a better place,
They did on earth, what they were meant to do

VERSE
Maybe t ‘was, time for you to go,
Somewhere you’ll be pain-free
But where does it leave, Our friends, our dog and me?
Your voice greetings still on the phone, we listen from time to time
But if I start to cry, Our dog begins to whine.

VERSE
You used to annoy when you slammed the doors when you came on thru,
but now I bang them once or twice, to remind me of you
The silly, stupid, dumb, funny, sunny stuff of our every day,
the gaping hole where you are gone has pulled that sun away

LAST CHORUS
Oh they say, time will heal all wounds,
Move along, Chin up, and you’ll push through
Oh they say, you’re in a better place,
You did on earth, what you were meant to do
Says who? Grief is the price you pay for love